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Sexual addiction shares some common traits found in all addictions.
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The inability to stop
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Engaging in behaviors that are not in line with one’s value system
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High-risk behavior (Risking one’s relationship, job, safety, etc. to attain)
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Needing a “fix” to feel better
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Increased tolerance – The more you have it, the more you need it and the more you need to reach the same point
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Engaging in the addiction gives a sense of comfort, “numbing out” or relieving anxiety
SEX ADDICTION IS:​
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A way to disconnect or escape
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A compulsion where you feel you can’t stop
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An confused attempt at finding love
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A way to get affirmation or feel important (Even when there are plenty of other places that you are getting it.)
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A way to deal with feelings of low self-esteem
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A way of keeping real intimacy at arms length
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A way to have power and control
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A reenactment of a childhood trauma
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Sexual addiction is really about searching fo something to feel better.
SEX ADDICTION IS NOT:​​
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A moral weakness
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A sign that you don’t love your spouse/significant other
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An indication that you aren’t getting enough sex in your relationship
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A guarantee that you won’t be able to have a successful relationship
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An excuse to hide behind
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A problem that can’t be treated
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EXAMPLES OF BEHAVIORS COMMON IN SEXUAL ADDICTION:
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Repeated infidelities and emotional or physical affairs
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Frequenting prostitutes, massage parlors, or strip clubs
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Compulsive use of pornography
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Compulsive masturbation
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Anonymous Sex
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Obsessive romantic or sexual fantasies
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Engaging in relationships that cross boundaries or are high risk
Sex addiction is very serious but it can be treated. There is hope and freedom from the cycle of self-destructive behaviors.
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Making that first call for help can be scary and intimidating but that’s where your journey to healing and freedom begins. All calls are kept confidential. Call us today.